May 25, 2020
There is an English saying “patience is a virtue”. What does that really mean? How does it affect our lives? The Coronavirus situation in 2020 is an unprecedented event when all our plans have to be put on hold. We need to be patient more so than ever! Today I would like to share this phrase with you and discuss about how patience become my vision in life!
Let’s look at the word “Patience”. We always hear and use the word “patience” and the derivative words in our daily lives. When you are anxious for your exam results, your teachers or friends will tell you to “be patient”. When you are about to give up, people will tell you “patience is the key for everything”. Firstly, let’s see what does Patience mean in the dictionary:-
To have patience with a slow learner.
To work with patience.
There is another definition for patience – It is the ability to wait, or to continue doing something despite difficulties, or to suffer without complaining or becoming annoyed.
Now let’s look at the meaning of “Virtue”
In the long march of our lives, we face many options. A lot of problems and difficult situations in the short term or the long term awaits along the path we chose. We need the energy to continue on the journey until we reach what we want. The energy is the patience that is an important thing in every step we take.
With the internet era, everything around us move extremely fast. We expect things to happen fast as well. Hence, we get very angry for slow internet speed. We often became impatient and in a bad mood for small things such as being unable to stream the videos we want to watch or download the e-books we wanted to read. Think about this, do these qualities make us better or worse off? We should realize that many things in our lives require long patience to deal with, such as recovering from disease, getting good results in work, raising children, etc. All these take time to achieve and being patient is the only way to go forward.
Today, I would like to share with you about my stories about patience while I live in the Philippines.
When I decided to come to the Philippines in 2018, I had 2 short term goals which are(1) to complete my studies of the English language and (2) to find work that would help me in my living here in the Philippines and one ultimate goal which is to find complete MBA Degree in the Philippines.
Initially, I enrolled for the General English Course in 3D Academy to study English while searching for the right university here. I visited several universities and that’s when I realized I might not be able to get an MBA Degree fast like I initially thought I would. Some universities do not offer an MBA program. Some universities had a registration dateline which was closed for the year when I visited. Some have their requirements of enrollment and I do not have the required supporting documents to complete the registration.
I decided to be patient and wait for the following year to enroll in a university. In the meantime, I stay put as a student at 3D Academy because the University of Southern Philippines (USP) is located right beside 3D Academy and they promised me that they would contact me as soon as the MBA program is opened for enrollment.
By luck and by chance, I noticed that 3D Academy offers an internship program for their students. 3D Internship is a program with free sponsorship of studying and lodging in exchange for doing work for the school. I applied and I was accepted! I moved into the school and started my half working, half studying life in the academy. After a few months of work, I was promoted to be an intern manager at the school.
When the time came for me to register for the MBA program in the University of the Philippines (UP), it didn’t go well because my qualification of bachelor’s degree in pharmacy did not give me enough credit to support for the MBA enrollment as I was deemed for not having any background in business administration for the bachelor’s degree. When I presented my documents at the University of the Philippines, I was informed to take the acceptance test for the MBA Program. Unfortunately, I failed the test. So I tried to enroll into another university – University of Cebu(UC). I failed again because I did not have a residence visa in the Philippines. There are different documents required for different universities here in the Philippines.
Being patient, I decided to wait for another year as I did not want to leave without achieving anything. While waiting, my visa extension was expiring. I was informed by the immigration that under their immigration and border control rules, the visa cannot be extended after a foreigner stay in the Philippines for more than 2 years. So I had to leave the country and to come back to the Philippines only after getting a new visa from my country of residence. That was a huge crisis for me because I am from Yemen. There is no Yemeni Embassy in the Philippines and Yemen is in a state of war. There was no chance of me leaving the country again if I were to go back to Yemen.
I decided not to give up and tried to find a way! First I went to Malaysia and tried to contact the Philippines embassy with the help of the Yemeni embassy in Malaysia. Finally, I got my visa back to the Philippines after a few months of trying! I want to take this chance to thank my father and 3D Academy for the help during this crisis time of my life! My colleagues in 3D Academy, namely Catie, Nikki, Yu, Neal, and many others helped and encouraged me a lot during the difficult period. Thank you guys so much!
After coming back to the Philippines, I got an email from the University of Southern Philippines Foundation (USPF) that their registration of the MBA program is opened. I was so excited because USPF is located just beside 3D Academy. With all the previous experience and effort, I was finally accepted at the university and started on my MBA journey! At the same time, I was promoted as the marketing and Student Manager at 3D academy. I started my new life with so much hope in life after applying “patience is a virtue” in my life!
In general, being patient is a positive viewed quality that would win you praise from your co-workers and managers (and your family and friends). You’ll likely become a good team player, more focused, and more productive.
If you’re often impatient, people may see you as being arrogant, insensitive, and impulsive. Co-workers may think that you’re a poor decision-maker because you make snap judgments or interrupt with others If you get a reputation for having poor people skills and a bad temper, others may even deliberately avoid working with you. As a result, not surprisingly, impatient people will unlikely become top of the list for promotion.
Of course, being patient doesn’t mean you should be a “pushover.” Far from it. Sometimes it’s OK to show your displeasure when people keep you waiting unnecessarily. So, ensure that you establish strong boundaries. But, be sure that you’re polite and assertive, never angry, and aggressive.
There is a piece of good news for the naturally impatient person – you can learn to be patient and cultivate the habit in your life! Here are some strategies suggested by emerging patience research:-
Feeling impatient is not just an automatic emotional response. It involves conscious thoughts and beliefs too. If a colleague is late to a meeting, you can fume about their lack of respect or see those extra 15 minutes as an opportunity to get some reading done. Patience is linked to self-control, and consciously trying to regulate our emotions can help us train our self-control muscles.
In one study, kids who did a six-month mindfulness program in school became less impulsive and more willing to wait for a reward. The GGSC’s Christine Carter also recommends mindfulness practice for parents. Taking a deep breath and noticing your feelings of anger or overwhelm (for example, when your kids start yet another argument right before bedtime) can help you respond with more patience.
In another study, adults who were feeling grateful were also better at patiently delaying gratification. When given the choice between getting an immediate cash reward or waiting a year for a larger ($100) windfall, less grateful people caved in once the immediate payment offer climbed to $18. Grateful people, however, could hold out until the amount reached $30. If we’re thankful for what we have today, we’re not desperate for more stuff or better circumstances immediately. Then we learn to be patient.
During this period of confinement, being patient is ever more important than ever. It is time we all slow down and practice a little more patience. We would be less stressed and more mindful of the things that stress us out. If that leads to being happier then isn’t it worth trying?
Thank you for reading!
I believe I’m a kind person, a bit shy but I’m fun and friendly. I love to make friends with people from all over the world.
I know that I will make a lot of new friends again and I will do my best to make my dream come true – to be successful in my life (Speak fluent English is my first step!).
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