January 27, 2021
Good afternoon my dear readers how are you? Today I would like to continue describing the Philippines through my eyes. In the second part of this article I’m going to tell you about Filipino family and their traditions.
In the first part of the article I have written about Filipino mentality, their superstitions and why they are the best singers. I will be glad to see any your feedback, share what you like or don’t in the Phillipines, your opinion and notes. If you already feel an interest, please sit back, prepare a cup of aromatic coffee or hot tea and let’s start.
Last weekend I was invited to a farm. When we arrived there, the first thing that struck me was nature. Rice plantations, thickets of banana trees, papaya and coconuts, bright green fields surrounded by dark blue mountains and silence. Cows, goats, pigs, chickens, dogs, cats walk quietly along the street and local children play with them.
In the city, of course, you will not see this. The second thing I noticed was a huge number of people in one small house, the owner of which invited us. At first I thought that these were the neighbour’s children, everyone goes to visit each other and this is normal. Some time passed and the children were joined by teenagers who showed interest in me, and for some reason I thought that these were all the neighbour’s children, there were so many of them.
And to be honest, I was shocked when I knew that the family we came to have 13 children. 13!!! And parents, a total of 15 people. There are also large families in Russia, but I have never seen a family of 15 people.
Nature was immediately forgotten and all my attention turned to this family. In the Philippines, it is normal to have a large family, the birth of a child is always a joy here, and this was evident from the way the mother spoke to each of them, with love and patience. They have 4 girls and 9 boys, ages from 24 to 4-5 years. They live in a tiny house with two rooms, grow vegetables and raise livestock, and they live on this. Despite such a number of children, I perfectly saw what a warm relationship between the spouses and it touched me.
Not every couple is able to maintain a relationship with so many children. Although perhaps this is my opinion as a foreigner. In Russia, with the appearance of children, the quality of relations between spouses in most cases does not get better and I am very glad that I saw a large Filipino family. While we were preparing the barbecue, the father of the family, his wife and children were sitting in one of the rooms and watching TV, and you know, looking at them, I realized that I want to create the same strong and loving family, although before that I hadn’t thought about a family at all. That’s how I came to look at nature, and saw something completely different and beautiful.
The next day, my friends invited me to the baptism of their son, and of course I gladly agreed. Only parents and family members were allowed to attend in Baptism Hall, we stayed out, but then we still allowed to enter to congratulate the parents and make a photo.
After we all went home together to celebrate this joyful event. I have never been on such holidays before and gladly stepped in the depths of the Philippine Quarter. Local sang karaokes, played basketball, walked with goats on a leash, relax in the company of friends and alcohol. When we came home, we were offered snacks and sweets, later we went out to the street, put the tables and began to celebrate.
I do not drink alcohol and therefore I watched the rest with interest and noticed how all the neighbors began to go to the house of my friends, there were a lot of people. On my question what is happening, I was answered that this is the Philippine tradition, if you have a holiday (baptism, birthday, wedding, etc.) you must treat all your neighbors, otherwise they will badly speak about you. I am as a foreigner, such a tradition surprised. In Russia, we share joy with friends and family, but not with outsiders, but here is another culture and I’m not quite sure that my friends knew all the neighbors or have friendly relations with them.
What I was still surprised that this is what the child is constantly in everybody arms, yours, at Mom, from an unfamiliar person, do not leave him for a minute in silence and peace. For me, this is already a familiar situation, I have experienced a lot when I lived in China, where people ride the motorbike with newborn in the arms. I, like a Russian woman, is used to that we protect our children from any danger and never leave them with those who do not know. But in Asia, its own rules and I am very glad to see it all with my own eyes. Of course, everyone sang karaoke, danced and had fun, it seems the whole street was celebrating with us, all the neighbors came and congratulated the parents, the neighbors also sang karaoke and drank with us, the children played, and someone was sitting on the steps of the house and just watching us … Well, for me it was also a pleasure to become a part of the Philippine holiday and to better understand the culture of this amazing people.
Photo by Levi Guzman on Unsplash
My dear friends, this is not all what I wanted to share with you, I will continue to do it in one of my next article. I hope you like my blog today and you have something to add, I will be glad to read your comments. Take care, have a good mood and see you soon.